Showing posts with label Marriage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Marriage. Show all posts

The Female Demerit System

In the world of romance, one single rule applies: Ma ke the woman happy.

Do something she likes and you get points. Do something she dislikes and points are subtracted.

You don't get any points for doing something she expects. Sorry, that's the way the game is played.

Here is a guide to the point system:

SIMPLE DUTIES
You make the bed (+1)
You make the bed, but forget the decorative pillow (0)
You throw the bedspread over rumpled sheets (-1)
You go out to buy her what she wants (+5) in the rain (+8)
But return with Beer (-5)
You check out a suspicious noise at night (+1)
You check out a suspicious noise, and it is nothing (0)
You check out a suspicious noise and it is something (+5)
You pummel it with iron rod (+10)
It's her pet (-20)

SOCIAL ENGAGEMENTS
You stay by her side the entire party (0)
You stay by her side for a while, then leave to chat with an old school friend (-2)
Named Tina (-10)
Tina is a dancer (-20)
Tina has silicone implants (-80)

HER BIRTHDAY
You take her out to dinner (+2)
You take her out to dinner and it's not a sports bar (+3)
Okay, it's a sports bar (-2)
And it's all-you-can-eat night (-3)
It's a sports bar, it's all-you-can-eat night, and your face is painted the colours of your favourite team (-10)

A NIGHT OUT
You take her to a movie (+1)
You take her to a movie she likes (+3)
You take her to a movie you hate (+6)
You take her to a movie you like (-2)
It's called 'Death Cop' (-3)
You lied and said it was a foreign film about orphans (-15)

YOUR PHYSIQUE
You develop a noticeable potbelly (-15)
You develop a noticeable potbelly and exercise to get rid of it (+10)
You develop a noticeable potbelly and resort to baggy jeans and baggy Hawaiian shirts (-30)
You say, "It doesn't matter, you have one too." (-8000)

THE BIG QUESTION
She asks, "Do I look fat?" (-5) (Yes, you lose points no matter what)
You hesitate in responding (-10)
You reply, "Where?" (-35)
Any other response (-20)

COMMUNICATION
When she wants to talk about a problem, you listen, displaying what looks like a concerned expression (0)
You listen, for over 30 minutes (+50)
You listen for more than 30 minutes without looking at the TV (+500)
She realizes this is because you have fallen asleep (-4000)

Golden oldies

Jacob, age 92, and Henrietta, age 89, are excited about their decision to get married. They go for a stroll to discuss the wedding and on the way they pass a chemist.

Jacob suggests they go in.

Jacob addresses the man behind the counter: "Are you the owner?"
The pharmacist answers "Yes". 

Jacob: "We're about to get married. Do you sell heart medication?"
Pharmacist: "Of course we do."

Jacob: "How about medicine for circulation?"
Pharmacist: "All kinds." 

Jacob: "Medicine for rheumatism, scoliosis?"
Pharmacist: "Definitely."
 
Jacob:" Medicine for memory problems, arthritis, jaundices?"
Pharmacist: "Yes, a large variety..... the works!" 

Jacob: "What about vitamins, sleeping pills, antidotes for Parkinson's Disease?"
Pharmacist: "Absolutely."
 
Jacob:" You sell wheelchairs and walkers?"
 
Pharmacist: "All speeds and sizes. Why do you ask? Is there something I can help you with?" 

Jacob says to the pharmacist: "We'd like to nominate your store as our Bridal Gift Shop."

THE MISTRESS

A husband and wife were having dinner at a very fine restaurant when this absolutely stunning young woman comes over to their table, gives the husband a big open mouthed kiss, then says she'll see him later and walks away.

The wife glares at her husband and says, "Who the hell was that?"

"Oh," replies the husband, "she's my mistress."

"Well, that's the last straw," says the wife. "I've had enough, I want a divorce!"

"I can understand that," replies her husband, "but remember, if we get a divorce it will mean no more shopping trips to Paris, no more wintering in Barbados, no more summers in Tuscany, no more Porsche or X-Type Jag in the garage and no more yacht club. But the decision is yours."

Just then, a mutual friend enters the restaurant with a gorgeous babe on his arm.

"Who's that woman with Jim?" asks the wife.

"That's his mistress," says her husband.

"Ours is prettier," she replies.

Liewe Gert...

Liewe Gert

Ek skryf aan jou hierdie brief om te sê ek gaan jou verlaat. Ek was 'n goeie vrou vir jou vir sewe jaar en ek het niks om daarvoor te wys nie. Die laaste twee weke was louter hel. Jou baas het my geskakel om te sê dat jy vanoggend bedank het en dit is nou die laaste strooi.

Laas week het jy nie eers opgelet toe ek my hare en naels laat doen het nie. Ek het jou gunsteling dis voorberei en 'n nuwe sexy nagrok gekoop. Jy het huistoe gekom, jou kos in twee minute verorber en is reguit bed toe nadat jy sport op TV gekyk het.

Jy vertel my nooit meer dat jy my liefhet nie. Jy gee my nie meer soentjies of drukkies nie. Jy is verlief op iemand anders of jy het my net nie meer lief nie. In ieder geval, ek verlaat jou.

NS. As jy my probeer soek - los dit maar. Ek en jou broer Sarel het saam 'n plekkie gekry aan die Natal se suidkus. Geniet jou lewe!

Jou ex vrou

Sannie

*******

Liefste Sannie my ex vrou

Niks kon my dag so maak as toe ek jou brief ontvang het nie. Dit is waar dat ons al sewe jaar getroud is. Dat jy 'n "goeie vrou" was, is ver van die waarheid. Ek hou daarvan om sport op TV te kyk om van jou permanente gesanik weg te kom - net jammer dit werk nie altyd nie.

Ek het laasweek opgelet dat jy al jou hare laat afsny het. Die eerste ding wat by my opgekom het, is dat jy nou soos 'n man lyk. Ek het niks gesê nie omdat my ma my grootgemaak het om stil te bly indien jy nie iets goed kan sê nie.

Toe jy my gunsteling dis voorberei het, moes jy my verwar het met my broer aangesien ek al vir jare nie meer vark eet nie. Ek het gaan slaap terwyl jy die sexy nagrok aangehad het omdat die prys etiket nog aan die nagrok gesit het. Dit het in my gedagtes gespook dat dit tog asseblief toeval moet wees dat my broer daardie oggend R200 by my geleen het en die nagrok se prys is R199. Ten spyte van dit alles is ek nog steeds lief vir jou en het ek gehoop dat ons nog dinge kon uitwerk.

Daarom het ek vanoggend, nadat ek uitgevind het dat ek die Lotto van R20 miljoen gewen het, my werk bedank en vir ons twee plek bespreek by 'n eksotiese eiland vakansie oord in die Ooste. Met my aankoms by die huis was jy al weg. Ek neem aan alles gebeur om 'n rede. Ek hoop jy kry die vol lewe waarna jy so "smag". My prokureur verseker my dat jy nie 'n sent gaan kry nie aangesien jy weg is voordat jy van die Lotto geweet het.

NS. Ek het jou nooit vertel nie, maar my broer Sarel was by geboorte Sandra. Hoop nie dit is vir jou 'n probleem nie.

Liefde

Jou ex man

Gert


What to wear when mother in law comes to visit

Why wedding dresses are white....

Son asked his mother the following question :'Mum, why are wedding dresses white?'

The mother looks at her son and replies,
'Son, this shows your friends and relatives that your bride is pure.'

The son thanks his Mum and goes off to double-check this with hisfather.'

Dad why are wedding dresses white?'

The father looks at his son in surprise and takes him on a walkabout,He shows him the fridge and asks him what is the colour, to which theson replies :

'WHITE'.

He does the same for the dishwasher,The washing machine,The stove, etc. etc.

Then he tells the son:

'Son, all household appliances come in white.'

Male Advise column

Always wondered why it is always 'auntie Phindile', 'sis dolly' or 'doctor Ruth', but there are no advice columns for 'bro Kenny', 'uncle john' or 'big brother martin'?

Now I know why. Just read the advice column below.

Dear Walter:

I hope you can help me here. The other day I set off for work leaving my husband in the house watching the TV as usual. I hadn't gone more than a mile down the road when my engine conked out and the car shuddered to a halt.

I walked back home to get my husband's help. When I got home I couldn't believe my eyes. He was in the bedroom with a neighbor lady, making mad passionate love to her. I am 32, my husband is 34 and we have been married for twelve years. When I confronted him, he broke down and admitted that he'd been having an affair for the past six months. I told him to stop or I would leave him.

He was let go from his job six months ago and he says he has been feeling increasingly depressed and worthless. I love him very much, but ever since I gave him the ultimatum he has become increasingly distant. I don't feel I can get through to him anymore.

Can you please help?
Sincerely,
Mrs. Sheila Usk

Dear Sheila:

A car stalling after being driven a short distance can be caused by a variety of faults with the engine. Start by checking that there is no debris in the fuel line. If it is clear, check the jubilee clips holding the vacuum pipes onto the inlet manifold. If none of these approaches solves the problem, it could be that the fuel pump itself is faulty,causing low delivery pressure to the carburetor float chamber.

I hope this helps.

Walter

Good wife

There was a man who had worked all his life, had saved all of his money, and was a real "miser" when it came to his money.

Just before he died, he said to his wife..."When I die, I want you to take all my money and put it in the casket with me. I want to take my money to the afterlife with me."

And so he got his wife to promise him, with all of her heart, that when he died, she would put all of the money into the casket with him. Well, he died. He was stretched out in the casket, his wife was sitting there - dressed in black, and her friend was sitting next to her. When they finished the ceremony, and just before the undertakers got ready to close the casket, the wife said,

"Wait just a moment!"

She had a small metal box with her; she came over with the box and put it in the casket. Then the undertakers locked the casket down and they rolled it away. So her friend said,

"Girl, I know you were not fool enough to put all that money in there with your husband."
The loyal wife replied, "Listen, I'm a Christian; I cannot go back on my word. I promised him that I was going to put that money into the casket with him."

You mean to tell me you put that money in the casket with him!?!?!?"

"I sure did," said the wife. "I got it all together, put it into my account, and wrote him a check... If he can cash it, then he can spend it."

Old love

An elderly gent was invited to an old friends' home for dinner one evening.

He was impressed by the way his buddy preceded every request to his wife with endearing terms such as: Honey, My Love, Darling, Sweetheart, Pumpkin, etc. The couple had been married almost 70 years and, clearly, they were still very much in love.

While the wife was in the kitchen, the man leaned over and said to his host, 'I think it's wonderful that, after all these years, you still call your wife those loving pet names.' The old man hung his head. 'I have to tell you the truth,' he said, 'Her name slipped my mind about 10 years ago and I'm scared to death to ask her what it is!'

Huweliks raad

Vrou:     "Dokter, ek het niks van my 15 jaar huwelik nie"........

en sy vertel van haar man se swakhede, geen liefde of aanraking of komplimente nie.


Na 15 minute vra die Raadgewer haar om na hom toe agter die tafel te kom.

Hy druk haar styf teen hom vas, soen haar in die nek en op die mond. Die vrou gaan heeltemal in 'n trans, en die dokter sê vir die man:

"Dit is wat jou vrou nodig het, drie maal per week. Kan jy dit doen?"


Man: "Wel dokter, ek kan haar Maandae en Woensdae hier aflaai, maar Vrydae speel ek golf."

What I Want in a Man

What I Want in a Man,Original List:

1. Handsome
2. Charming
3. Financially successful
4. A caring listener
5. Witty
6. In good shape
7. Dresses with style
8. Appreciates finer things
9. Full of thoughtful surprises
10. An imaginative, romantic lover

What I Want in a Man, Revised List (age 36)

1. Nice looking
2. Opens car doors, holds chairs
3. Has enough money for a nice dinner
4. Wants to talk to me.
5. Laughs at my jokes
6. Carries bags of groceries with ease
7. Has at least one shirt with the arms cut out
8. Appreciates a good home-cooked meal
9. Loves to go for drives
10. Seeks romance at least 3 times a week

What I Want in a Man, Revised List (age 42)

1. Not too ugly
2. Doesn't drive off until I'm in the car
3. Works steady - splurges on dinner out occasionally
4. Nods head when I'm talking
5. Usually remembers punch lines of jokes
6. Is in good enough shape to rearrange the furniture
7. Wears a shirt that covers his stomach
8. Knows not to buy champagne with screw-top lids
9. Remembers to put the toilet seat down
10. Shaves most weekends

What I Want in a Man, Revised List (age 52)

1. Keeps hair in nose and ears trimmed
2. Doesn't belch or scratch in public
3. Doesn't borrow money too often
4. Doesn't nod off to sleep when I'm venting
5. Doesn't retell the same joke too many times
6. Is in good enough shape to get off couch on weekends
7 . Usually wears matching socks and fresh underwear
8. Appreciates a good TV dinner
9. Remembers your name on occasion
10. Shaves some weekends

What I Want in a Man, Revised List (age 62)

1. Doesn't scare small children
2. Remembers where bathroom is
3. Doesn't require much money for upkeep
4. Only snores lightly when asleep
5. Remembers why he's laughing
6. Is in good enough shape to stand up by himself
7. Usually wears some clothes
8. Likes soft foods
9. Remembers where he left his teeth
10. Remembers that it's the weekend

What I Want in a Man, Revised List (age 72)

1. Breathing
2. Doesn't miss the toilet

Side by side

A woman's husband had been slipping in and out of a coma for several months, yet she had stayed by his bedside every singleday. One day,when he came to, he motioned for her to come nearer.

As she sat by him, he whispered, eyes full of tears, "You know what? "You have been with me all through the bad times. When I got fired, youwere there to support me. When my business failed, you were there. When I got shot, you were by my side. When we lost the house, you stayed right here. When my health started failing, you were still by my side... You know what?""What dear?" she gently asked, smiling as her heart began to fill with warmth.

"I think you're bad luck... get the hell away from me."

VERSTAAN JY JOU VROU ?

Dit is vir mans baie belangrik om te besef dat namate vrouens ouer word, hulle dit moeiliker vind om dieselfde kwaliteit van huishouding te handhaaf as toe hulle jonger was. Wanneer 'n man dit agterkom moet hy probeer om nie te skreeu nie..... Laat ek julle inlig hoe ek dit hanteer.

Toe ek 'n tyd gelede my werk as Verkeersbeampte verloor het, het ek 'n afleggingspakket vir "vroeë aftrede" ontvang. Dit was toe nodig dat Katryn 'n permanente werk moes aanvaar, nie net om die pot aan die kook te hou nie, maar ons het dit ook nodig gehad vir die mediese fonds-voordele.

Sy was 'n opgeleide Bankklerk toe ons 27 jaar gelede ontmoet het en sy was baie gelukkig om nou weer 'n soortgelyke werk te kry. Kort nadat sy weer begin werk het, het ek agtergekom dat haar ouderdom haar inhaal.

Ek kom gewoonlik vanaf my visvang of klub dieselfde tyd huis toe as wat sy van die werk af kom. Alhoewel sy weet dat ek dan honger is, sal sy amper altyd sê dat sy dan moeg is en eers 'n halfuur of so moet rus voordat sy begin om die aandete voor te berei. Ek probeer nie om haar te vermaan wanneer dit gebeur nie. Inteendeel, sê ek vir haar sy kan maar haar tyd gebruik. Ek verstaan dat sy nie meer so jonk as vantevore is nie. Ek vra haar net om my wakker te maak wanneer die kos op die tafel is.

Vroeër het sy die skottelgoed onmiddellik na ete gewas. Dit is nou egter nie meer altyd die geval nie en somtyds is die skottelgoed nog vir ure na ete op die tafel. Ek bring ook my kant deur haar telkemale gedurende die aand te herinner dat die borde nie hulleself sal was nie. Ek weet dat sy dit waardeer, aangesien ek sien dat dit werk en dat sy tog die skottelgoed voor slapenstyd was.

Ons wasmasjien en droër is onder in die kelder. Toe sy jonger was, kon Katryn verskeie kere per dag die trappe op en af klim sonder om moeg te word. Noudat sy ouer is, lyk dit of sy sommer baie gouer moeg word. Partykeer sê sy vir my dat sy net nie nog een keer die trap op en af kan klim nie. Ek maak nie 'n groot ding daarvan as sy so sê nie. Solank sy net die wasgoed voor die volgende aand gereed het, sal ek dit oorsien.

As ek intussen dalk iets nodig het wat voor Maandagaand se snoekerspel of Woensdagaand en Vrydagaand se pokerspel of Dinsdag en Donderdag se rolbal gestryk moet word, sal ek vir haar sê dat sy net moet stryk wat ek benodig en dat sy die res van die strykgoed kan laat tot die volgende aand. Dit gee haar dan so 'n bietjie meer tyd om die los werkies, soos die was van die honde, stofsuig of afstof te kan doen. Ook as ek 'n goeie dag by die viswaters gehad het, het sy dan daardie bietjie meer tyd om die vis se skubbe te krap en teen 'n gemaklike tempo te vlek.

Katryn begin so nou en dan te kla en murmureer, nie te dikwels nie, maar net genoeg sodat ek dit kan agterkom. 'n Voorbeeld hiervan is dat sy sal sê dat sy nie genoeg tyd gedurende haar etensuur het om al die maandelikse rekeninge te betaal nie. Ten spyte van haar klagtes gee ek haar ondersteuning en aanmoediging. Ek sê vir haar sy kan die betalings oor twee of selfs drie dae versprei. Deur dit te doen hoef sy nie so te jaag nie en verder herinner ek haar ook daaraan dat om nou en dan 'n middagete oor te slaan haar glad nie skade sal doen nie.(As julle snap wat ek bedoel)

Wanneer sy eenvoudige werkies doen, begin sy dink dat sy meer rusperiodes as voorheen, nodig het.

'n Paar weke gelede het sy, nog voordat die grasperk halfpad gesny was, gesê dat sy 'n ruskans nodig het. Ek ignoreer sulke aanmerkings aangesien ek weet dat dit maar net die ouderdom is wat praat. Trouens, ek probeer om haar nie te embarrasseer wanneer sy hierdie ruskanse wil hê nie. Ek sê sy kan gerus vir haar 'n lekker glas koue lemoensap gaan uitdruk en 'n rukkie sit...soms bied ek selfs aan om 'n glas sap saam met haar te drink, aangesien sy terselftertyd vir my ook 'n glas vol kan uitdruk. Sy kan dan haar ruskansie kry deur daar by die hangmat te sit en met my te gesels tot ek aan die slaap raak. So kan ek aangaan, maar ek dink dat julle teen hierdie tyd al agtergekom het dat ek soos 'n engel uit die hemel is, soos wat ek vir Katryn op 'n daaglikse basis ondersteun.

Ek wil nie beweer dat dit maklik is om soveel verdraagsaamheid aan die dag te lê nie. Baie mans sal dit moeilik vind....party selfs onmoontlik.

Niemand weet beter as ek hoe frustrerend vrouens kan wees namate hulle ouer word nie. Die doel met hierdie skrywe van my is eenvoudig om julle te versoek om 'n poging aan te wend om so verdraagsaam soos ek te wees.

Om dieselfde vlak van verdraagsaamheid as ek te bereik, sit egter nie in elke man se broek nie. Wel, deur dalk net 'n bietjie minder met julle vrouens te raas nadat julle hierdie brief gelees het, het ek in my doel geslaag en was dit die moeite werd om hierdie brief te skryf!

Groete,
Frikkie


(Nota van die redakteur: Frikkie se begrafnis was voorverlede Saterdag.
Katryn is Maandag vry gespreek.)